So I'm in the midst of trying what I'm call an "experiment." It's less anxiety provoking than saying I'm going cold turkey and never going back to it. I'm on day 13 of my Facebook sobriety. I even have an accountability person for when I'm feeling weak. Actually, two. Yeah, it's that bad.
There were many factors that went into the decision, but one was time. Some things such as my day job aren't negotiable and it takes 45+ hours out of my week. Sleep is not negotiable. Showering is not negotiable. I realized that despite the advantages Facebook gives to writers to get in touch with their readers or provide a link to their newest blog post, if it's taking time away from when I could be writing, then there will be no audience. Nothing to share with readers.
In case you're considering it, a hint that's helped is that I temporarily deactivated my account so no one can comment or message me and therefore, I'm not as tempted to check it. It's also a relief though that not everything is lost (it's the closest I ever came to compiling a "wedding album" of pictures) so I can go back to it at anytime and everything will be there. I also removed it from my "bookmarks" on the computer. My "experiment" is to take it one day at a time and see how long I can go.
I was aiming for more time, but I've been surprised at how much it's decluttered my mind. I don't need to know all those details about everyone else's lives. I don't need to witness the drama that sometimes unfolds from a simple post or picture. Why fill my mind with unnecessary information about everyone I know? I'm learning to be more thoughtful about what occupies space in my mind. The same applies to commercial ads, TV, the Internet etc. If I'm going to have more room in my mind for creative ideas and story tidbits, decluttering your mind is just as important as providing yourself with more time in a day.
Maybe it's something about fall and hibernation, but I've also felt a need to close some of the shades in my life. I'm naturally a fairly private person, but removing myself from Facebook is also my way of focusing inward, and regaining more privacy so I can be more aware of the creative thoughts that bubble to the surface.
The first week wasn't as bad as I'd feared. I worked through my withdrawals, the urges to check, the jittery feelings. After a few days I stopped thinking of status updates I could post.
So far I've fallen off the wagon twice. The first time wasn't so much about feeling compulsed to check but about a Facebook event I'd created that had disappeared from everyone's view and was causing some confusion. The other time was a weak moment. I've noticed that when I'm feeling down or a need to numb myself from whatever is going on, I have the urge to check it. It's an easy way to zone out. A favorite blogger of mine wrote about her experience of unplugging from social media and I agree with a lot of her points: Momastery.
If you're one of those disciplined individuals that checks Facebook once a week or once every few days, this may not apply to you; maybe there's something else that's a time suck or that clutters your mind. For me it was Facebook. I might go back when I can be more balanced, but then again I might not.
It's a relief that you can't "like" this. That's awesome if you do, but it's not essential for me to know either.
